It has become clear to me that the only way I can have things done to my car(s) properly is if I do everything myself. I’ve always liked cars, and I’ve always liked to understand how the things I find instrumental in my life work. However, I never dreamed that I would do the kind of automotive work I have done. That has come to pass simply because no one does anything properly. I would take my car to the Peugeot ‘specialists’ whom other members of my family had been faithfully taking their cars to for years, and upon its return to me I would find silly little things that had been forgotten, or wheel nuts done up so tight that without a rattle gun, a simple flat tyre becomes a tow truck affair. These small things led me to procuring a Haynes workshop manual for my car, and gradually learning to iron out the kinks left by ‘the professionals’. The more I learned about my car, the more I could see what wasn’t being done properly, and the more that I could see wasn’t being done properly, the less inclined I was to take my car back to ‘the professionals’. I gradually learnt more and more, and my car saw ‘the professionals’ less and less. Eventually I got to a point where I simply couldn’t bear the idea of paying someone to do work on my car when the standard of their work was lower than what I could do myself.
I have found it easy over the years to lose perspective and get caught up in the possibilities of what I might be able to do with cars. A pretty restoration here, an engine conversion there and some spirited driving at club events being the intended target of such projects. And particularly over the past five or so years whilst I have been on anti-depressants, I have found the work I have done on cars to be somewhat therapeutic as if staying focussed on the task at hand has kept my mind off suicide. That is where my propensity to lose perspective with cars is very helpful. Isn’t that what we call a passion? Something that we like so much that when everything else is wrong, we can still get lost in it? Well, kinda...
You see if I didn’t have music, I may well consider cars my passion. But why wouldn’t I consider cars my passion or at least a parallel passion? Because the buzz I get from them isn’t even close to what I get from music. But then, why would I consider music my passion when in the depths of the past five years on anti-depressants I couldn’t stand the idea of playing music? The truth is that passion is not always positive. Passion is a measurement of emotion not an emotion in and of itself. The mundanity of working on cars allowed me to continue this hobby whilst on the medication. However, the medication severely inhibited my ability to connect with music. I could put on music that had in the past invariably effected me deeply, and feel absolutely nothing. Practicing guitar became a mechanical act. I no longer felt one with the instrument and even if I tried to focus on the vibrations of sound and the feel of the guitar resonating against my body, it would not penetrate my skin. I could not emotionally connect with it. Perhaps a kind of analogy could be to imagine you burn your hand on a hotplate. You are aware of the physical pain, but you don’t yelp and flinch, drawing your hand away, you simply don’t care. Not in a despondent way, nor in a tough guy/hardcore way, you are simply unable to care. This inability to connect with that one thing that I had bent all my efforts to, that one thing that had always been of much greater importance to me than everything else - even love and sex, this gave rise to a passion much greater than any car could generate. ...But it was a negative passion. It was a frustrated, hopeless despair. It was an acute sense of being forsaken by the one and only thing that gave me focus, desire, drive, and any reason to live. I know that the problem was in me, but it felt like music had forsaken me. So the medication abated my darkest moments, but it also took away my only reason to live.
Imagine you are madly in love. The love is requited and the relationship is wonderful. Then you take a pill which renders you unable to move at all, but you’re all there mentally. So you are seated in a chair in the corner of your bedroom, unable to move. Over time your partner whom you still madly adore, begins to bring other people home, making love with these people right in front of you. You are still unable to move, but in your head your fists are bloody and bruised from beating against the glass barrier as you scream “Why won’t you love me anymore?! If you love me as you did, I will regain my mobility. Without you I have no purpose.”
Translation: The partner is music, the pill is anti-depressants, and the people your partner brings home is any song, concert, conversation, news item, activity, et cetera, to do with music. You see, that person locked inside his/her head, bruised, bloody and screaming is me. That is the level of the passion I have for music. That is why I couldn’t bear to play or even listen to music whilst on anti-depressants. The very idea made me sick to my stomach.
My inability to connect with music made anything to do with music brutally painful. So you see although I was able to continue playing with cars, I still felt much less for them than I did my estranged love that is music. As such, the cars gradually absorbed the time I would have otherwise spent on music. Music gave way to more demanding, more involved, more ambitious car ideas and projects.
Now I’m off anti-depressants, I’m slowly rediscovering my relationship with music. I’m pushing through that failing glass barrier and regaining mobility. As I do so, I’m finding the car related projects I am in the midst of are (whilst quite interesting) an encumbrance. They are a barrier between me and the things I feel I am on this earth for. I’m having to recognise that just because something is interesting and I am capable of doing it, this doesn’t mean that I need to do it. If youth were eternal, then I could explore all such avenues, but given our temporal limitations, we must choose our battles. I am choosing music once more. I will continue to enjoy cars. I will continue to maintain my daily driver myself and I will continue to read technical articles about suspensions and engine design. But I must do so on my terms and in a way that doesn’t adversely affect my primary purpose. I have woken to find myself a slave to these projects. I am getting rid of all cars and parts not pertinent to the ongoing concern that is my daily driver. When you do all the work yourself and you have a life outside your interest in cars, there is enough technical interest in maintaining (and modifying) one car.
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